Talking to teens about dating
Kantor suggests statements like, “The fact is, most people your age are not having sex.” Even as your daughter gains independence in some areas, when it comes to sex and dating you can and should stay involved. Don’t allow your daughter to spend a lot of unsupervised time with her boyfriend.And don��t allow her to date someone who is two years or more older than her.
On a deeper level, dating gives kids a chance to learn about relationships.
“The kids would talk about who was hooking up with who,” she says. “Whenever we ask kids where they get their information about sex, teens always say their #1 source is their mothers.” The problem is, you probably won’t find the perfect time to talk about it.
Ignore the Rolling Eyes and Talk to Her “The first thing mothers need to know is that they are a critical voice in their daughters’ sex education,” says Leslie Kantor, MPH, national director of education at Planned Parenthood Federation of America.
“Parents play an important role in conveying their values,” says Kantor.
But before you tell your daughter exactly what she can or can’t do, understand there’s only so much you can control.
If you have mixed feelings about your past or current sex life, do your best to come to terms with that before you talk to your daughter.