Online dating breasts
Post-cancer body changes and body image issues are real. • Every scar, every bald head, every dark circle, every prosthetic breast, and every reflection in a mirror that you might not recognize anymore tells a story. As I talked about this article, he shared that he was intimate with a women who had a double mastectomy.
He said, “I was not mortified or shocked…more than anything I had questions, but I felt uncomfortable asking them because I didn’t want to dwell on what might be a painful subject.” Do not let lack of communication sabotage what could be a wonderful relationship with a loving man.
I’d read and re-read profiles, trying to determine if I could find some clue deeming the man was sensitive enough to learn about my breast cancer journey, but also not looking for physical perfection in a woman.Two subsequent surgeries followed to continue to shape my breasts so they look natural—well as natural as can be, considering all breast tissue and my nipples had been removed.Needless to say, my body has been carved up more than a turkey on Thanksgiving.It takes time to acclimate to the battle scars that will become part of your back-story. Do not shy away from having an open conversation about your fears, concerns or how you want to be touched when the time for intimacy arrives.
• Do not, for one minute, think you are being shallow for caring about intimacy after a mastectomy. That is where you have the potential to shine the brightest. I met a wonderful man from on-line dating who became a dear friend.Rock your scars, your prosthetics and your nipple-less breasts! You have gained strength, courage, and confidence that you didn’t even know existed.