Dating soldier ptsd
But don't count him out on just the biases of others. I was in a military relationship for 2.5 years, and almost engaged.
It created a very difficult time in my life, but I am to this day so so so so grateful that I did not marry that man, as much as I loved him.
So my suggestion whenever you date someone in the military, yes be aware they have seen shit or done shit in their life that you probably never will but get to know the person.
They are just like anyone else except their job involves the military.
I always hear horror stories about dating military guys and have met a couple awful military guys myself (violent, immature, threatened me). In the realm of military men, try to avoid the ones that get caught up in unit drama.
I realize that bad men are not specific to the military, it is just one of those professions that can really mold a person. What qualities/life choices/ etc do you think separate the good ones from the bad? If they gossip about their friends' wives/girfriends/SOs I would stay way.
While it's too bad it didn't work out (my fault, not his), I know now how I'm to be treated by a man and will look for someone like him when looking for a husband. I also have a friend who's married to a military guy who is a complete MORON, but he's a good husband and father.
I watched a man I respected become more racist, more sexist because he was surrounded by people enforcing those ideas. Military life is not easy, even if you are cut out for it (which I am not.)Edit: So long, ugh. He drinks too much, smokes too much, drives under the influence, engages in risky behavior like street-racing (while drunk/high/whatever). He won't let her help him with his school work. He won't seek therapy for his PTSD (which is definitely causing the substance abuse.) He abuses prescription drugs and mixes them with alcohol.
I scolded him, but the group would chuckle, and he would change his language. TL; DR: Dated a military guy for almost three years, lost partnership and equality in my relationship and was ultimately very unhappy. He takes drugs while his baby sister tries to do her homework in the next room.
He is an individual and deserves one until he acts otherwise.
Those individuals will be drama and aren't worth your time.
It just depends on what you are looking for and their personality.