And we’re not past the point where a white co-star or love interest is sometimes necessary to get the funding for movies telling the stories of people of color.
But attacking interracial relationships is not the way to get better representation.
The criticism—direct and implied—that I’ve felt most keenly comes from a less expected demographic: woke millennials of color.
I felt this most acutely in communities I’ve developed as a feminist.
In fact, I never feel blacker than when I’m the only black person in the room, having dinner with my white in-laws (lovely as they are).
Others who bash men of color for dating white women have argued that the dynamic of women of color dating white men is an entirely different ball game.
His whiteness hasn’t prevented the microaggressions and presumptions I face daily.
It doesn’t make my family immune to structural racism and state violence.
Each time she marries, is she in a different status with her own blackness? Does my partner’s whiteness have any effect on my blackness?Smith asks Adichie to reflect upon the pleasure they both feel in the fact that US president Barack Obama married Michelle Obama, a dark-skinned black woman.“But then I have to ask myself, well if he married a mixed-race woman, would that in some way be a lesser marriage? “If it was a white woman, would we feel differently?At the heart of the “woke” objections to interracial dating is the belief that people of color date white people in an attempt to assimilate, or out of an aspiration to whiteness.
As a black woman who’s with a white man, I can attest that nothing about the situation makes me feel more white.In fact, when I first set out to meet his white, British family, I asked if he had told them I was black.