Dating a boy with adhd
After a hard day at the office, a stressful commute home, driving children to after-school activities, it’s hard to feel romantic; especially when you are late, forget your keys, or realize you didn’t pick up your kids. Busy days filled with work, phones and Facebook can distance us from our partners. One of the most important things you can do is join forces. Bickering, competing, and criticizing are habits that are harmful to a loving relationship.It sounds unnatural, but if you want to emotionally reconnect, you have to schedule private time for your relationship. When you’re in the midst of negativity, be it an argument or just the voice in your head, remember to regroup, readjust, and realign your thoughts so that you feel united with your partner. A person with ADHD often feels disappointed, overwhelmed, and frustrated.He was the perfect boyfriend for about 4 months, we were so in love (I’m still in love) then started to withdraw.On my part, I have attachment issues, probably co-dependency, which may have caused him to withdraw.
I am still a blurter but do try to just keep my mouth shut.He tends to make empty promises, doesn’t always seem interested when I talk, forgets about the things we discuss, doesn’t seem to be able to make some time for me (we see each other like once a week), he says things like “I know I’m not treating you well, you deserve better” but yet doesn’t do anything to change his behavior.I’m not sure he has good time management skills and he’s messy.As the years go by, you know more about each other. Often you find yourself thinking, what happened to the person I fell in love with? Resentment sets in, secretly hiding in the background of your lives. Speaking while angry causes damage to your partner and to the relationship.
The more comfortable you get in relationships, the more you take them for granted. With ADHD, life can be lived impulsively or haphazardly. Take space for yourself to manage your feelings and pick your battles. You’re late for appointments, if you even remember that you have them. You say things without thinking or tune out during important conversations. And still, adults with ADHD are completely capable of happy, fulfilling marriages.